Love is a many-splendored thing, especially when you’re gawking at it from the outside. In this column, we’ll be examining the celebrity couples who give us hope for our own romantic futures and trying to learn what we can from their well-documented bonds.
I’m far from the only person who just wants good things in this world for Keanu Reeves. This is, after all, the man who anonymously donates millions to children’s hospitals, and gave away a significant sum of his backend earnings from The Matrix to crew members, as he thought they deserved it more. He’s the man who launched a thousand memes with the mere existence of a photo of him sitting on a park bench, looking sad. The man who brought Sandra Bullock Champagne and truffles on a motorbike after he heard she’d never tried them before, then sat down to have his nails painted by Bullock and her friend. The man who loves gaming, martial arts, rock music, and motorcycles with all the relatable air of a lovable, kindly grown-up geek. The man who dressed up in Dolly Parton’s real-life Playboy cover Easter bunny outfit as a kid. (Yes, really.)
In other words, Keanu Reeves is a prince among men. And with his much-deserved career revival over the past few years, affectionately dubbed the “Keanassaince,” it’s been a joy to have him back on our screens again—whether in the John Wick series or in the return of The Matrix franchise during this holiday season. As something of a reluctant celebrity, however, Reeves’s love life has often been shrouded in mystery, especially given the privacy he understandably sought following the untimely loss of partner Jennifer Syme in 2001. A few flings aside (one of which was with Sofia Coppola, mind you), Reeves has largely kept his romantic side under wraps.
That is, until he met Los Angeles artist Alexandra Grant sometime around 2011. They first became close when collaborating on the art book Ode to Happiness, following which they launched a publishing imprint called X Artists Books. And while the two were spotted together on a handful of occasions in the following years, it was only in 2019 that their relationship was confirmed, with their friend Jennifer Tilly noting that they’d been “dating for several years.” Since then, they’ve stepped out together, to a Saint Laurent fashion show in Malibu in 2019 after Reeves appeared in a campaign for the house (Chic!). They were spotted at the Italian restaurant and L.A. institution Giorgio Baldi having dinner a few months later (Romantic!). In November of the same year, they attended the LACMA Art + Film Gala in Los Angeles (Philanthropic!).
So what is it about this relationship that just feels, well, right? For one, there are reports that the pair enjoy nothing more than sitting around all afternoon talking about art, which sounds nice. Others have gone on record to say that they enjoyed their time together in Berlin while Reeves was filming the Matrix sequel, simply having late dinners and sightseeing. Then there’s the fact that they’ve also apparently bonded closely over their spirituality, something Reeves has been reluctant to put a specific label on in the past but has said is a big part of his life. Some have commended Reeves on eschewing Hollywood conventions and settling down with a more age-appropriate partner, even if this inevitably feels a little patronizing. In a rare interview with Vogue last year, Grant noted that while she found it amusing that pretty much everyone in her phone book gave her a call after the news broke of her relationship with Reeves, her first thought was: “What is the opportunity for good [here]?”
I might be contradicting myself here, having just spent a good four paragraphs waxing lyrical about Reeves’s love life and in the process drawing more attention to his relationship with Grant, but perhaps the most charming thing of all is simply the palpable sense that the couple simply wants to do their own thing. They don’t need to make regular red carpet appearances, or give gushing proclamations of love in interviews, or go for paparazzi-attracting lunches at Los Angeles hotspots to validate that their love is real. It’s as real as a young Reeves dressing up in a Dolly Parton Playboy outfit. (Honestly, that’s real!) I want what they have, yes, but I also just want them to be left alone. So here’s to you, Keanu and Alexandra—and may you continue to find every happiness together.